- Years old:
- I am 47
- I’ve got clear hazel green eyes
- Hair color:
- Fair hair
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Hi this is me Rona i am filipino here 20 yrs.
I was single for 10 years after my divorce.
2. they don’t forget to thank their partner
During that time, I engaged in a lot of online dating. In my case, my unsuccessful dating was for other reasons. A few times on my path, I actually dated for longer periods of time with men who loved controlling me. That was my issue, and I needed to overcome it. Even though I was strong and independent, in relationships I kept falling into an old familiar trap of being dominated, controlled, belittled, or used.
Through much work on myself, I started to attract kinder men, and was married at age 60, to a wonderful man who I adore. The work had to begin with me. For years, I looked to a relationship to complete me.
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I needed to learn the hard way that I was already complete. This totally changed the way I viewed dating and relationships. I could be genuine and non-confrontational in dating interactions. Being me, who I had become through the many challenges of life, was attractive and sexy!
Dating was much more relaxed. If the date needed to tell me all his wonderful accomplishments in the first few minutes, I viewed it as perhaps he had low self-esteem, or it could be he was just plain nervous.
I stopped feeling I needed to inform him of all my accomplishments so he would know I was a good catch, or that I too had done some great things. Instead, I would shift the conversation to something less work oriented, to find out what made him tick.
Through this I would learn if we were a match that sparked my interest. No kidding!
If you ask a woman how men think even a female relationship coach you may never figure it out! There are men who have taken on the challenge of being a relationship coach or mentor to men or women. Ask them! Adam LoDolcethe founder of Love Strategies who states he is a fan of confident womenhas some great articles and a clear focus on the topic. Remember that male and female communication is something we work on all our lives!
Figuring out how your date thinks is as individual as they are! Rather than try to change the way you ask for help, just to bolster the male ego, how about a genuine approach? Simply ask for help. Please STOP thinking of this as a tactic or ploy to keep them feeling manly and therefore all built up and happy around you. That feels so insincere and fake to me. Sometimes when a man sees something you need, opens the door for you, or wants to lend a hand if the sidewalk is icy, it could be because he is viewing you as valuable. Could it be he is being kind? To put it plain and simple, you are worth kindness.
Just let this subtle shift in thinking help you accept when a man is being a gentleman. Many professional women as well as those who are now retired, or non-professional, widowed, single women truly want someone to share life together. It is very discouraging that the area of finding real love, a genuine caring person, and someone to date seems to be beyond grasp. This is where a dating coach can be extremely helpful. I know of a very professional and successful woman who continues to see a man she is not in love with.
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He is very much in love with her and wants to marry her. She continues to date him, due to loneliness and being unsuccessful in attracting anyone else, yet she is unhappy. Why not check out this site or others for inspiration?
Many have great blogs or written articles, where you can figure out if you like their style before committing to coaching. Strong women are used to working hard, being on time, leading meetings, being in control and forceful. Learn to drop some of that and relax in relationships. Approach men in a relaxed way where their validation of us is not really needed for happiness.
We already value and appreciate ourselves. Your success and drive are such a wonderful part of you. Relax into it. If your date asks questions about your work, just say what you feel like revealing.
From all your skills in your professional life, use the skill of changing the subject! For me, the most successful date discussions revolved around the things that we both enjoyed, made us happy, or enriched our lives. Be assured, your genuine self will attract someone who is head over heels with the whole package that makes up YOU. Until that happens, remember to consistently do those things that make you happy and enrich your life. Do you lack confidence in dating?
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What steps can you take to relax and just enjoy love and relationships? Please share with the community!
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