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As a rule, couples after marriage feel comfortable, satisfied, and cheerful. Over several years situation changes. People start to feel lonely notes in relationships, build plans without a spouse, and so on. A lot of people go to psychologists in order to solve this problem, while others start looking for someone more interesting and attractive. To diversify the life of couples, people have created advanced and really effective married chats. They are deated to bring a portion of new emotions and fun into your family life.
Ever wondered what your spouse is up to behind their laptop screen? What you may consider endless hours of hard work or movie marathons, may actually be cybersex. Married Indians are taking sex from the bedroom to the chatroom.
Plenty of online adult chat rooms have mushroomed, some even specifically targeting married folks looking for some time out.
The reasons could be diverse — a quick sexterlude or something deeper. The Internet has become the place to escape bedroom boredom.
What makes the Internet so exciting? According to a study conducted by the University of Floridait is Anonymous Sexual Interactionism — you get to live your deepest fantasies, without your identity being known. Once the honeymoon period is over, sex can become monotonous for many.
Cybersex seems a quick and easy fix, without the guilt of a real-life affair. The writer went undercover in some of these chat rooms to try and understand why women and men were turning to them.
Further prodding revealed a distinct real life — she is a mother of 3, working from home, with a husband travelling for work even on weekends. But then I found some amazing men who titillated me with conversation and sex talk. I have only had sex via chat though because there I can be whoever I want to be. Related reading: Sexting: pros and cons.
Not everyone is restricted to only sexting. One such adventurous gentleman, going by the name dickforaclick invited this writer for a Web session.
That was too much revelation for research, but he mentioned many camera encounters. In fact, I like the face being left to the imagination! These women are married but just looking for some short relief — someone to hear them and care about their orgasm.
There is no actual physical touching. But the same University of Florida paper considered these to be cheating because Internet sex breaks the emotional and sexual exclusivity of marriage; it is done in secrecy, thus showing a sense of guilt even from the person doing it; and can have very definite real-life repercussions and breach of trust. Related reading: We asked our readers how they defined cheating as a couple and they said.
For most the writer chatted with, this aspect of their lives was definitely hidden from their real-life partners. So why tell this? This is not harming her or our relationship in any way. My online trysts give me the space to enjoy my sexuality without hurting him or my family.
But would the spouse of those going to such chatrooms agree? For many, such intimacy is a breach of trust. Marriage is more than just the physical act of sex and seen from that perspective, cyber romance could be just as problematic for your relationship. According to a paper published in the Indian Journal of Psychiatryonline infidelity can have a negative impact on the marriage and even cause depression or other mental health issues in the offended spouse.
Apart from the effects of such liaisons on the marriage, there is a deeper issue of serious marital concerns causing people to turn to online sex. Most of the chatroom users this writer spoke to revealed something missing in their marriage — good sex life, someone to talk to, quality time with spouse.
There were also those who claimed to have perfect marriages but were there just looking for some added fun because they could. But a larger clearly showed that turning to sexual partners online reflected ificant marital concerns, which needed counselling and not a quick net fix.
Whether such easy access to sex beyond marriage will make marriages stronger with sexually content partners, or lead to more divorces, is something time will tell. Can I marry my girlfriend online? Alright, this is definitely cheating. The urge to participate in this clearly indicates that your relationship with your spouse lacks some kind of sexual element.
So instead of engaging in this, talk to your spouse and try to work on your sex life. Because how long can you hide this stuff for. One way or the other your partner will know about it. So it;s better if they hear it from you then find out themselves.
I am okay with him watching porn but sexting! I do not think I can even bear it. You must be logged in to post a comment.
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Emotional Stress. Team Bonobology April 3, Leave a Comment Cancel Reply You must be logged in to post a comment. An agreement before marriage is not a bad idea.