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Let's get this straight: during the COVID pandemic, there is no "safe way" to have sex with someone you don't live and quarantine with. But humans are humans, and we know some folks will still make the choice to get physically intimate with other people, despite the presence of a highly contagious disease in our midst. So we asked for your anonymous questionsand created this guide to sex and dating during the coronavirus pandemic.
That's because when it comes to engaging in social and physical intimacy, it's all about weighing your risk factors, assessing them against the risk factors of the person or people you'd like to have sex with and doing everything you can to further reduce the potential harm. So many aspects of the coronavirus remain mysterious to scientists, and that includes the full scope of COVID's relationship with sex.
But here's what we do know. It hasn't been found in vaginal fluid. The scientific community actually doesn't know for sure yet. What we do know is that "sex is the definition of close contact," as Stephanie Cohen puts it. So if you're close enough to get physically intimate with someone with COVID, you're definitely close enough to have a high risk of being infected via those particles they're exhaling.
Kissing someone outside of your household is one of the most risky things you can do right now, Cohen says, because of how much exchange of saliva it involves. For this reason, she says, kissing might actually present a higher risk of transmission than vaginal or anal sex.
And anything that increases your respiration and your respiratory rate "will likely result in the release of more respiratory droplets," thus increasing the risk of transmission — think heavy breathing. Because the coronavirus has been found in feces — and because gastrointestinal symptoms like diarrhea can occur sometimes with COVID infection — Cohen says there's a likely chance that anal sex or oral-anal contact would pose more of a transmission risk than other forms of sex such as penile-vaginal contact, for example. That said, medical professionals just don't know for sure.
COVID transmission risk would also be impacted by a of other factors, such as the degree of face-to-face contact and how infectious the person with COVID is at the time of the sexual encounter. Right now, there just isn't enough data to be definitive, Cohen says — so it's all about assessing those various risk indicators we do know about.
If you're utterly determined to have sex outside of your household right now, these precautions represent harm reduction strategies:. And remember: Don't forget to practice the safe sex you usually would before the pandemic.
With all this in mind, we'll say it again: right now, during the COVID pandemic, there is no way of having sex with someone outside your household that carries zero risk of transmitting or obtaining the virus. And here's another tricky thing. Even if you and your partner agree to abide by all of the above harm reduction strategies in the cold light of day, things can shift in the heat of the moment.
ly agreed-upon plans can fall apart when inhibitions are lowered and you're turned on, especially if alcohol is involved — and in these circumstances "you're less likely to use your prefrontal cortex to really analyze the risk involved in the situation," Feldman stresses. So if you're concerned that your safety boundaries might be in any way reduced or made negotiable during sex If you aren't sure whether your sexual partner had COVID, the best time to get tested for the coronavirus would be between five and 14 days after the encounter, says Stephanie Cohen.
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That's because the median average time from exposure to coronavirus symptom onset is five days — so testing any earlier than that might not yield an accurate result — but the incubation period the amount of time you can be infected before showing symptoms is up to 14 days.
Here's the idea: you have sex with someone, and then wait for 14 days to see if you develop symptoms of COVID If you don't, you're good to move on to a new partner safe in the knowledge you don't have the disease and aren't passing it on — right? These kinds of overlapping sexual relationships with different people — going back and forth between people, basically — is called "concurrency" in the sexual health world, and it's something experts say will heighten your risk of spreading the disease.
Where does that leave you if you practice polyamory, which is all about having multiple sexual relationships? Nenna er says that yes, some folks are deciding to take a break from polyamorous intimacy during the pandemic owing to the heightened risks of having different partners right now. But other poly people are choosing to isolate together "as a poly family," they say, and agreeing to only have sex "within that sphere of people. If group sex having sex with multiple people at the same time was your thing before the pandemic, Stephanie Cohen has a message for you: "The fewer people, the better.
That's because with every additional person in a situation — social or sexual — you're adding a potential COVID case, whether they know they have it or not. In a group sex situation, that person is then potentially transmitting the coronavirus to multiple people at one time — who could then go on to infect others, who then go on to If you do continue to choose group sex, New York City's public health department advises you to "Go with a consistent sex partner" in such a situation, and "pick larger, more open, and well-ventilated spaces.
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It's "a profession that certainly carries risk," Cohen stresses, due to the amount of close physical contact involved. In addition to the other strategies discussed here, some additional harm reduction strategies sex workers might consider are to limit the of clients they see during the pandemic, to opt for a smaller circle of regular clients and "more spacing out in-between partners.
As if finding a match with someone you're emotional and physically compatible with in all the expected ways wasn't fraught enough — you now have the coronavirus risk compatibility to consider, too. Get ready for some frank communication with partners, both current and potential ones, about your circumstances and behaviors around contact with other people. How many people are they seeing, socially or sexually? How does their daily life look in terms of interactions with other people?
Are they an essential worker? If so, what kind of traffic does their place of work experience?
In a nutshell, this is not the time for mystery — and in many ways, you'll have to be your own contact tracer, says Nenna er. Open, honest communication about your health has never been more crucial than right now. And, as Julia Feldman notes, if you're getting sexually intimate with somebody, you should already be talking to that person about your health and sexual health status. COVID is now another communicable disease for you and your sexual partner s to be discussing, without holding anything back.
Remember though: somebody can have the coronavirus and have zero symptoms. Starting these conversations can feel tricky, especially with someone you barely know, so Feldman advises you initiate the conversation by leading with your own experience — a time you were concerned you might have been at risk for contracting COVID, perhaps, or a recent decision to seek out a test for the disease. Leading with your own vulnerability, she says, can really open up a conversation without putting your prospective partner on the spot.
You don't want them to feel grilled, or accused. This is brand new stuff. We are going to be messy. In being thoughtful though, don't forget to acknowledge your own boundaries — and forget about anyone who doesn't respect them, especially during a pandemic.
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Being an advocate for your own safety — and working to limit community transmission of the coronavirus — means not letting any potential partners pressure you into meeting up in person, or engaging in any sexual contact you don't want to have. If you're sharing your living situation with roommates or family, sorry: your business is now their business, especially if their own health places them in a vulnerable category.
That means you should be as transparent as possible with the people you live with about your relationship sand the types of activities and the type of risks that you're involved in, Feldman says. The first step in navigating this should be talking with the person you're dating or having sex with, to establish their level of risk. You need to work out the potential COVID risk their behavior and circumstances pose not just to you, but therefore to the people you cohabit with. You should be prepared to discuss how you propose to minimize your roommates' risk, whether that's avoiding shared spaces in your home, relentless sanitizing of your living environment — or whether your cohabitees are prepared to not do this and accept the heightened risk, and the potential consequences of that.
Basically, get used to communicating because "you need to have some very frank conversations about how you're going to try to keep everyone safe, and prioritize everyone's health and well-being," Feldman says. It's that big a deal that ultimately, Cohen says, your roommates or family "should have veto power in terms of you engaging in risky behavior and bringing it back to them.
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Totally, says er: social distancing and forgoing physical touch does not have to be a barrier to sexual intimacy. Sex toys which use Bluetooth connectivity can be used or worn by one partner and activated remotely by their partner from six feet or more away, without any physical contact.
If you want to increase that distance, er says you could use these kinds of toys in conjunction with phone sex, or voyeurism. It might sound impersonal, but er says distanced products actually require just as much effort and communication, if not more. er's pro tip: If you're purchasing this kind of remote toy for the first time, try it out solo first to really get to grips with it — and minimize any awkwardness when you come to use it with your partner.
Some people with anxiety can often find the machinery of dating — conversation, sex with someone new — stressful and anxiety-provoking. If that's you, er says to take advantage of this "buffer," to get some respite. They also want to remind you that not everyone in the world is into self-pleasure — and if that's you, that's totally fine. If limiting your physical intimacy with others is something you're committed to, you may be considering acquiring sex toys to concentrate on your personal pleasure instead.
er says many sex shops, including their own, offer online chat services, where you can consult with an expert about exactly what you're looking for. er says some of Feelmore's live chats can get "crazy," so don't worry about being frank with the professionals.
Online deliveries or courier services are also available in many stores, to enable you to maintain social distancing. er's entry-level advice with your purchases: "Stay on the lower end on pricefigure your body out for yourself and then progress from there. If you decide to take your sex life fully online to eliminate any close contact or in-person elements, New York City's public health experts advise that if you normally meet your sexual partners online or make a living on the internet"video dates, sexting, subscription-based fan platforms, sexy 'Zoom parties' or chat rooms may be options for you.
If you choose this option, don't forget to keep your environments clean in a way you would if someone else was present, and disinfect any keyboards and touch screens you're using that you share with other other people. Also, don't let the possibilities of the internet and let's face it, lockdown-induced frustrations override your normal judgment around your online privacy and personal safety. Especially when it comes to sending nudes or other intimate material to someone you don't know and trust.
Don't be deterred or dismayed by how new all this feels either, er says.
The pandemic means many of us have had to learn new ways of living in general, and these adaptations to our sexual lives are in many ways "an opportunity to create a new life sexually for ourselves as well," they say. er believes that this might even be a spur to regain intimacy for many people, because of the extra imagination and effort required.
It's a chance, they say, to make sure that you're really focusing on your own emotional needs. Julia Feldman advises that this is also a potential moment to redefine what intimacy means for youbeyond mere physical touch: "We can't say that intimacy is dead!
It's not just single folks who aren't necessarily having the quantity or quality of physical contact they'd prefer during quarantine. It's all about switching up your timing to reinvigorate a dynamic, er says.