- Years old:
- I’ve got misty hazel green eyes but I use colored contact lenses
- Color of my hair:
- My body type:
- My figure features is slim
Y ou hear about FOMO a lot these days.
It's a common, modern affliction. This niggling feeling that we should have more, travel more, do more.
You only have to open up Instagram to trigger a mid-life crisis and wonder what the hell you're doing with yourself when so many people seem to be having this "perfect" time. Written by: Katy Cowan. Believe me. Most people aren't. On social, they're only showing the very best of themselves. You don't see the reality or the hardship — just the fun experiences.
However, this is "Generation Perfection", and it's putting unnecessary pressure on all of us.
If you work in the creative industries, it can feel worse because so much of what we do is on display. When your career doesn't feel successful, and if you're wondering why you're spending all your time at work when others seem to be travelling. Or if you think the grass might be greener, read on and enjoy these tips on how to be happy with what you've already got. Don't watch the news.
Don't pick up your phone. Pick up a book instead and enjoy a little quiet before you rush to your office or desk. On your commute, listen to happy music these will get you started or an entertaining podcast that's positive and light.
Cherophobia: is being too happy a thing?
You don't want to overload your brain with information first thing. Or remind yourself how depressing the world can be.
Why the daily scrolling? Does it make you happy? Take a look around on the train, bus or tram. See all those people on their phones? Trust me, not one of them will be smiling.
If they are, then it's because they've seen a video where a dog drags its balls across a carpet. It's understandable why you'll feel miserable on a winter's morning when you look at Instagram and see someone taking three months to travel around Thailand and Vietnam while you're battling the elements. And Facebook. Don't get me started. It used to be that you could naturally "move on" from people. Now, you have to stay in touch with ex-boyfriends or girlfriends, see someone who bullied you in school suggested as a "friend" and keep in contact with acquaintances that really, you should've left behind a long time ago.
The facebook illusion
That's rubbish. You can easily connect with people via other means. Limit your time on social media. Only follow creative stuff — not people with incredible bodies or those who always seem to be travelling it'll make you miserable. Your brain, your body RSI, people!
The benefits of play for adults
I'm a simple person. I gain happiness from the smallest of things — the sound of birds singing on a sunny morning. A soft, early morning breeze is floating through the curtains. A bee is happily moving from flower to flower. A cat is lazily lying in the sun and quietly observing you, as you sip your tea. Ok, the weather isn't always perfect.
But you can always find joy in the small things. Your first cup of coffee. The smell of a freshly laundered bed. The feeling of carpet under your feet.
Embrace the here and now. It's the little things in life that make us happy. Drink them up. Cherish them. Indulge yourself in things that don't cost a penny — take a walk, read a book a library and always have a good book on the gohave a hot bath, do some exercise, light some candles. Enjoy a little Hygge — pronounced "Hoo-gah" and live your life.
Find the time to indulge in some "me" time. And fill the days with family and friends. We don't always do this. Sometimes, we stay at home and listen to the radio or read a book, lazily staying in our pyjamas and doing nothing. You can't live for the weekends. That'll make the working week drag on and on.
So plan a little something here and there to keep you happy. Go to the movies on a Tuesday.
This is the best way to overcome fear of missing out
Make Wednesdays the day you catch up with friends. a sports club and make it a regular fixture. It's easy to get sucked into consumerism especially if you follow people with gorgeous clothes or homes on Instagram. We all do it. Buy stuff.
But buying things doesn't make us happy. We might get that initial buzz. But it doesn't last. Accumulate less, live more — that's the sentiment I'd love you to ponder today. If all that stuff you've been buying over the years is starting to clutter your home, perhaps it's time for a re-think. Because you know what they say, "tidy home, tidy mind" — and we're trying to encourage optimum wellbeing here.
A good old spring clean not only transforms your life; it can also make you happier.
Just because we’re adults, that doesn’t mean we have to make life all about work. learn how play can benefit your relationships, job, and mood.
If there's someone in your life who takes a little more than they give or somebody who always leaves you feeling deflated rather than energised, perhaps it's time to move away and spend more time with other friends. The type who makes you laugh and feel great about yourself. Easier said than done when you have people you can't shake off, even if you wanted to. Be there for those who need you. Just don't feel guilty about laying down a few boundaries and limiting your time with them. Nothing feels better than ticking things off a list.
If you've meant to go to the dentists or fix that squeaky door for ages, get them done. You'll feel so happy with yourself for being productive and organised. If it helps, use the very excellent task manager app Things.
How to be happier with what you already have and stop wanting more
Buy it and then have it on your phone, tablet and desktop computer — it'll sync and know when you've ticked things off on any device. One-off cost, too. I don't know about you, but I feel amazing after a gym session or a bike ride. It's one less thing to worry about. A task completed. I'm looking after my health, and I feel great. It means I fully deserve that bottle of beer or glass of wine. I can indulge in a meal out and not feel guilty.
Staying active and looking after our bodies isn't just good for our long-term health; it makes us happy too.