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Hookup culture has become an accepted style of human connection. The desire to have sex without strings has always been a thing — proudly searching for just that it is just way less taboo than it was when your grandparents were dating.
Engaging in a sexual relationship without investing emotionally can be empowering. Even healing. Recently I just had my second hook-up experience. It was a month after my first one.
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Both times were with a foreign guy who had good sense of humor and who treated me respectfully, and both times we had a great time. I had an uncomfortable feeling after hooking up, and not because I regretted it. Instead, it was because I actually enjoyed something that society tells me is wrong. Something is wrong with this and I need to set some things straight. Before my messy break-up a year ago, I only slept with my boyfriend.
The break-up traumatized me. I was disgusted with the idea of having an intercourse with anyone beside my ex. Some people tried, of course, during party or when I traveled by myself and met people, and I always rejected them. Until a month ago, when a traveler asked me if I would like to have dinner with him. As an experienced solo traveler, I know the feeling when you want to hang out with local people to know more about the place you visit.
We met for a drink.
This was during the time when I was missing my ex so much and when I was crying nearly every weekend because I felt so lonely after we officially stopped communicating three months earlier. I had been sexless for nearly a year, during which I regularly masturbated, too afraid to get the real sex.
So the temptation of starting the flirting game was very high, and I knew right away that he wanted to sleep with me. He accepted it, not being pushy whatsoever. We went to a party later and I danced wildly, something that I always do anyway. After I finished my drink, he went to get me another drink. While alone waiting for him, my mind changed. All I wanted that night was physical pleasure and as a woman with freedom, I knew I could have anything I wanted, if I wanted it.
Why should I have to feel bad for wanting to fulfill my biological need? Why do people see sex as a thing for men to enjoy, but a sacrifice for women? Long story short, he asked me if I would like to come to his place and I agreed. I wanted a meaningless physical connection and there is nothing wrong with that.
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Last weekend, I met a guy at a party and he was very cool, cute, and into me. After some time, he kissed me gently and later we went to his place.
We had fun and he treated me affectionately after the intercourse. I left the next afternoon after having breakfast, watching a movie, and engaged in an interesting conversation.
I had a good time overall. But then the feeling came again. I arrived at my own place and I felt uncomfortable because I enjoyed the experience.
Am I too easy? Why should I play hard to get if I want it too? Doing it with a creep is a terrible idea. But doing it with someone you want, when you want it is liberating. A good friend asked me why I would have sex with someone with no prospect of relationship?
I only wanted physical connection, not emotional one. No more crying over my failed relationship, because I know I can be happy in any possible way by my own. Hey there! Thank you for ing up for our newsletter.
May 24, My Hook-up Experience 'Frees' Me. Elsie F is a journalist, traveler and a long-time believer of feminism. She is not a big fan of external validation concept, and she knows how to happily enjoy her life on daily basis. She ly lived in Europe.
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